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Showing posts with label Opinion. Show all posts

Friday, September 18, 2015

Tyeesha Holt author of “Nothing Gay About Being Gay”, speaks on leaving homosexuality.

Tyeesha Holt (@tyeeshaholt) | Twitter
Nothing Gay About Being Gay is about me (Tyeesha Holt) overcoming homosexuality and other strongholds of life in order to discover and fall in love with the real me ! 

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Saturday, April 4, 2015

Who do we Blame for Black-Greek-Lettered Hazing ? – The Leaders

http://gregoryparks.net/wordpress/?p=74 
Who to Blame for the Continued BGLO Hazing – The Leaders

This week, just a few days ago, it came out in the media that Kappa Alpha Psi Fraternity has just been hit with another hazing lawsuit. The reported facts seem peculiar and involve a police officer, a member of Kappa Alpha Psi, hazing another grown man—leaving bruises on the alleged victim and requiring him to rub the member down with lotion. This latest case should add to the chorus of people who rightfully ask: why can’t BGLOs stop the hazing? Routinely the finger is pointed at a bunch of adolescents, BGLO members between the ages of 19-23 and some alumni who help perpetuate the culture of hazing. While I don’t subscribe to the notion that kids will be kids, I do think that solely, or even largely, focusing on this age-group as the main culprits loses sight of what these organizations stand for.

At the heart of BGLOs’ identity is this notion of “leadership,” so it seems apropos to ask: where are the leaders on this issue and why can’t or haven’t they solved it? In my fraternity, whether electing chapter presidents, regional vice and assistant vice presidents, national presidents and the like, I cast my ballot for an odd reason. Beyond the rhetoric, all I’m interested in is who has a vision for boldly advancing the aims of the fraternity and a plan for execution. When it comes to the issue of hazing, I doubt most leaders have, do, or will have a sound plan of attack for the issue. That leaves me with the feeling that, in all honesty, across organizations, the chief executive leaders—either nationally, regionally, provincially, or at the district level—aren’t truly interested in tackling the problem. Maybe they believe hazing isn’t an issue and only speak to it, because a significant organizational constituency does. Maybe they believe hazing is a problem, but they are too lazy, lack any real vision, or lack the chops to work through the organization’s political dynamics to solve the problem.

Think about this: In these organizations, the leaders expect adolescents to do two things. Within the organizations, they expect, largely, college members not only to not haze but also to report hazing—to stop it when they see it or hear about it. Also, and maybe to a lesser extent, they expect college members across organizations to report hazing to prevent harm to victims and the organizations themselves. However, the leaders—the grown-ups—have often failed to do this in other contexts where there have been breaches not only in ethics but also law.

As an aside, a few years ago, Dr. Jelani Cobb—an Alpha Phi Alpha member and Professor at the University of Connecticut—wrote an article in Essence magazine about black men’s sex trips to Rio. He caught a lot of flak from black men for the article, because he let the proverbial cat out of the bag. I suspect I’ll similarly catch a lot of flak from BGLO members for what I’m about to say. It should be no surprise that wherever you have large congregations of men, prostitutes are likely to be. This point was underscored by the federal court cases US v. Murphy (2013) and Murphy v. US (2014), where a traveling prostitution ring made its way around to one BGLO fraternity’s conventions. While one fraternity was implicated, it would be naïve to think that this kind of activity doesn’t take place at all BGLO fraternity conventions. Additionally, you have cases like Alpha Kappa Alpha v. McKinzie (2013); Daley et al. v. Alpha Kappa Alpha (2010); Mason v. Alpha Phi Alpha et al. (2012); McKinzie v. Alpha Kappa Alpha (2006); Purnell et al. v. Alpha Kappa Alpha (2010); Redden v. Alpha Kappa Alpha (2006); Shackelford v. Alpha Kappa Alpha (2011); and Stark v. Zeta Phi Beta (2008). Each of these cases revolves around substantial allegations that the national presidents of these organizations embezzled organizational funds. Across each case, there were similar facts: (1) people in positions of power engaged in unethical conduct and arguably broke the law; (2) other people in positions of power were aware of the conduct and turned a blind eye; (3) those in power engaged in a practice of intra-organizational secrecy; and (4) whistleblowers were demonized, attacked, and in some instances removed from the organization. And while it’s specific leaders who were caught, it’s foolish to think that this hasn’t been a pattern of practice among some national heads of these groups, but that those other leaders entrusted with the future of the organizations refused to speak up and speak out. Similarly, to my knowledge—and I could be wrong—in each of the instances where the national presidents were found to have, arguably, embezzled organizational funds, I doubt that their co-heads (the national presidents of the other NPHC organizations, those who sit on the Council of Presidents) called them on the carpet.
BUT, the leaders, the adults, expect adolescents to do the very thing that they themselves have long been unwilling to do—to reign in, punish, and/or speak out against unlawful conduct on the part of alumni, especially those in power, that threatens to destroy our organizations.

In addition, ponder this: These organizations aren’t solely comprised of college members. If anything, alumni members predominate. And when I say alumni members, I mean smart and well-educated alumni, many of whom are deeply committed to these organizations. They serve, or could serve, as an intellectual reservoir—a primary source of intellectual capital—to solve the problems of not only the black community but also of BGLOs themselves. The leadership, however, squander this resource. The leaders claim that they want to solve the scourge of BGLO hazing and suggest that they are at their wits-end about how to do it. Either they lack and have long-lacked vision on this issue or they are and have been disingenuous.

I’m a firm believer that there are few problems that exist that don’t have a workable solution out there in the world. The key is to finding it. There is a researcher, professor, thesis, dissertation, article, book, study, practitioner, best practice…out there waiting to be discovered. The question is whether the person or people who purport to want a solution to a problem will go out and find it. The leaders of BGLOs, for the most part, haven’t wanted to find it, end of story. How do I know? I know because having studied and written about BGLOs for 10 years and having served as an expert witness and trial consultant in BGLO hazing cases (for plaintiffs and defendants), I know beyond a shadow of a doubt that the people I know who are the most knowledgeable about hazing, or who have expertise in fields of study that could bear on real solutions to the issue, are NEVER consulted by BGLO leadership. Their work is never reviewed. Their best practices are never examined. And I’m not talking about some random white person hidden in a lab in Siberia. I’m talking about financially active BGLO members, who attend chapter meetings, do community service, participate at conventions, and the like.

The moratoria, the revised Membership Intake Processes, media blitzes, campaign speeches, presidential addresses, and, yes, even Phi Beta Sigma’s Anti-hazing Campaign, are shams. The efforts, if one could call them that, have limited, if any, basis in facts, data, and actual support for the speeches, admonishments, and initiatives. BGLO leaders are more concerned with whether you’re a member of their specific organization, financial, of a certain stature within their organization, black, and whether you can say the right things to make them look good and keep them happy. They cannot move beyond their own comfort zones to do the most essential aspect of their jobs—ensure the viability, vitality, and impact of their fraternity or sorority well-beyond their years. Rather, they seek to rearrange deck chairs on the Titanic, to tinker at the margins, and establish their fleeting legacies.

BGLO undergrads may engage in the lion’s share of hazing within these groups; it’s true. But the bulk of the fault for the deaths, injuries, lawsuits, rising insurance costs, and eventually end of one or more of these organizations was, is, and always will be the men and women we put in high office. It is that class of members, our leaders, who should and must be responsible for guiding us out of the darkness and into the light. But too many (not all) of them can’t see beyond their own narrow agendas, political posturing, or lack of insight and vision. And this isn’t to demonize BGLO leaders; some, maybe many, have good hearts and love their respective organization. But maybe what some have had to offer is too little, especially in the area of solving our most crucial issues, hazing being chief among them.

You Asked for BGLO Hazing Solutions: Here Are Some on the Fly [ http://gregoryparks.net/wordpress/?p=67 ]


One of the lingering critiques of my research on BGLOs is that I don’t provide solutions to the problems they face. This usually comes from those who don’t read my research but rather my blog posts, tweets, and Facebook commentary. Even still, assume I’m a physician, and a patient came to me for a check-up. I tell them that they are likely to die prematurely, because they’re morbidly obese from lack of exercise and excessive daily caloric intake. Some such patients would ask: “What should I do to stop being morbidly obese?” My answer: “Diet and exercise”; the answer is built into the diagnosis I give. But some patients want more. They ask: “What kind of diet should I use?” “What’s the best work-out regimen?” “What if I lack will-power?” Maybe I should answer these questions, or maybe the patient also needs a nutritionist, personal trainer, and psycho-therapist. With that said, let me give some concrete advice on how BGLOs could and should address hazing, in no particular order save the first one:

Each BGLO needs to come to grips with what it’s or wants to be—its organizational identity. Each needs to do some soul-searching. Dr. Stefan Bradley and I edited an entire book on this topic with regard to Alpha Phi Alpha, which has implications for the other members of the NPHC. Everything these BGLOs do should revolve around their organizational identity. This includes, and is especially the case for, how they identify, recruit (tacitly or explicitly), train, initiate, and retrain members. Honestly, membership is the most important issue within BGLOs; without them the work of the organization cannot get done.

The critical question within BGLOs is really about leadership. And I don’t mean the kind that can investigate hazing allegations, host a good conference/convention, give a good speech, whoop like a Baptist preacher, recite “If” and “Invictus”, provide great hospitality suites at gatherings…but who can transform these organizations. Leadership, especially at the national level have to provide a clear roadmap and vision to addressing hazing by all reasonable means; and membership have to elect that leadership into position. To date, BGLOs have not had that. The proof is in the pudding. That’s not to say that the current and past leaders are incompetent; they just haven’t solved the problem, and I doubt they gave their best efforts. This is a chicken and egg problem: when will such individuals offer themselves’ up for service, and can members recognize them for the value they bring and elect them? I don’t know; I’m not confident on these points.
From my observation, BGLOs are organizations of “no.” They are conservative, and when new ideas and modes of thinking come to the fore, membership and leadership resist them. With regard to hazing within BGLOs, the old approaches clearly have not worked. Therefore, a new type of leadership has to be receptive to and able to find ways to cut through organizational politics, and the like, in order to implement new and novel ideas around solving the BGLO hazing problem.

The best place to start with bringing in members who exemplify any of these organizations’ ideals is mentoring; I mean from K-12. Being big brothers or big sisters is likely to create the best possible pipeline to membership, because then boys and girls get exposure to these organizations and their ideals early. Once these kids hit college, much of the training about what it takes to be a BGLO member could and should already be done.

Litigation-wise, BGLOs are at a disadvantage. Litigation is largely run by insurance carriers who give the insured a panel of lawyers in the state where litigation is pending. The inured-BGLO then picks from among these lawyers, most of whom probably know little about BGLOs. These organizations, under such circumstances, should request that local counsel associate with some other, outside of panel, attorney who is a BGLO member or firm with a BGLO member on the litigation team. That isn’t to say that BGLO members will have the ideal body of knowledge to litigate the case effectively, but some knowledge is better than none. These organizations should always use expert witnesses if they can. The narrative about BGLO hazing is easily articulated in a language that would make a jury sympathetic to a plaintiff. The only real balance that can come is if there is an expert to better contextualize the issue. Depending on the law in the jurisdiction, the facts of the case, and depending on whether a BGLO litigating a case hires a competent expert, they should consider not settling in order to build more favorable case law to their assertions. Also, BGLOs lack any real perspective on the legal strategies used against them, the law across jurisdictions, the strength and weakness in claims, etc… This is because they don’t analyze prior litigation in any systematic way. As such, they should confer—the 9 of them—about what cases they have had over the past several decades. They should gather all case names from their insurers and all case files from the relevant courts and then create an analysis of these cases in the aggregate. Yes, this will cost some money but less money than hazing settlements and deductibles.

Also, in the context of litigation, when BGLOs are sued, they have to pay their insurer a deductible—e.g., a $25,000. How do these organizations recoup that money? They don’t, but they should sue the members who caused the litigation in order to recoup the deductible. Also, if a BGLO settles a case or loses it and has to pay damages, they should sue the members whose conduct resulted in the verdict and damages. That could help send a clear message to violators.

Leadership within BGLOs need a better understanding of hazing issues and law. They should regularly attend the handful of conferences on the topic. Also, there is a growing and robust body of literature available on the topic; folks need to start reading.


Leadership have to be held to a high standard in BGLOs. Their behavior should be a model for rank-and-file members. In recent years, at least half of BGLOs have had embezzlement issues involving their national leadership. It’s unreasonable to expect a 19-22 year-old to obey the law when a 40, 50, 60 year-old man or woman won’t. Leadership have to be held accountable. If they steal; they have to be removed from office and the organization, and possibly prosecuted; this is especially so if the same would be done to undergrads. It gives leadership a higher moral ground when going after college chapter hazing; it’s also an attack on an organizational culture that flouts organizational rule sand the law of the land.

Two important data points: One is that a good predictor of whether or not BGLO members will haze is the extent to which they are actually aware of the consequences of hazing. These organizations believe that they are making the case, but they’re not. Think about this: if I tell you once a year, “smoking causes cancer and can kill you,” would you stop smoking, especially if you’re addicted to nicotine? If, on a weekly basis, I say the same thing to you but show you images of people who died from lung cancer and what nicotine did to their lungs, and I constantly bombard you with data about the harms of smoking, would you stop or at least try to stop? Better question: which approach is likely to cause smoking cessation, the former or the latter? The problem is that BGLOs lack a command of the facts and therefore a command of the narrative. They don’t chronicle the major hazing incidents that result in personal harm and litigation. As such, they have little to talk about other than abstracts about what hazing is doing. What’s problematic is that this information is not hard to come by. These organizations can get much of it via the means mentioned above. They can also search legal and news databases. This could be expensive; if only these organizations had members on college campuses who could gather such information for free from university library databases (yes, I’m being snarky). Once they have compiled the information, they could disseminate the information to aspirants, incorporate it into risk management training, etc… The other point is that hazing is most violent in black fraternities. Part of this likely has to do with how manhood and masculinity are defined among black men, including black fraternity members. Part of this also shades into the third rail of black fraternity life—homosexual membership. These organizations’ ability to grapple with and discuss this issue is a must; but it will take leadership at every level to tackle it.

The ironic thing about BGLOs is that given the nature of alumni membership, these organizations have considerable intellectual capital to solve their own problems. I personally know experts in a variety of disciplines who are active BGLO members who have pieces to the puzzle for solving the problem of hazing. These members go to chapter meeting, sell tickets to their chapters’ annual balls, do service projects, but they don’t offer up solutions to major issues their respective organizations face, because their organizations are not interested. And I don’t mean that leadership should say, basically, come help if you want. Leaders have to urge, nudge, beg if needed, these people to lend their insights. Heck, if need be, pay them. For instance, most of the experts I know are professors, but they probably cannot put ample time toward drafting a white paper on hazing, especially if they are pre-tenured, but they might be able to do so if they had a research assistant or two or three. These organizations should invest in such.
Black Greek-letter organizations need alternative revenue streams. This is largely so that they can halt Intake when needed to make adjustments and not worry about the financial hit they will take. This is so because most of these organizations live and die on Intake fees. The problem is that as 501(c)(7) organizations, they must rely substantially on membership dues/fees. And with the high attrition of members once they graduate from college—ie., the lack of financially active members—these organizations are in a bind. They should consult with an organizational behavior (“OB”) expert about what it takes to get organizational members to be committed to their, respective, organization.

These organizations need an alternative process that members can buy into and that helps gather and prepare the kind of members they need. To reduce liability, they could have a protracted on-line course, at the beginning of the process. Part of what should be taught is the history and culture of BGLOs, generally, and the history of the specific BGLO they’re joining. Aspiring members should also be taught about the contemporary issues BGLOs face, especially a robust education on hazing. They should have to earn some minimal score to advance to the next stage or to various iterations of the tests. Some, maybe many, aspirants will not be motivated to read and do the best they can. As such, incentivize the learning. Give them a certain rebate for not simply getting the minimum score but for getting much better scores. So, if a 90 out of a score of 100 is needed to pass, a 91-95 gets them a rebate of $50. A score of better than 95 gets them a rebate of $100. Once they finish the series of exam, they are basically knowledgeable about BGLOs. Then the bonding activities and additional activities can take place over the next several weeks and even after Intake.
These are my quick thoughts, the ones I could get down in 45 minutes before I leave the office. There is more to come in forthcoming scholarly journal articles and books.

Gregory Parks

Gregory Parks is an Assistant Professor of Law at Wake Forest University School of Law, where he has taught since the Fall of 2011. Professor Parks holds an M.A., an M.S., and a Ph.D. (all in Psychology) and a J.D. He served as a law clerk on the District of Columbia Court of Appeals to The Honorable Anna Blackburne-Rigsby and the United States Court of Appeals for the Fourth Circuit to The Honorable Andre M. Davis.  After clerking, Professor Parks took a Visiting Fellowship at Cornell Law School and then worked as a Litigation Associate at McDermott, Will & Emery LLP in their Washington, D.C. office where he worked on trial and appellate matters.

Professor Parks' research interests lie in a number of domains: (1) how social and cognitive psychology explain legal phenomena; (2) the application of empirical methods to legal questions; (3) race and law issues; and (4) the ways in which black fraternal networks intersect with the law. He teaches in the areas of civil procedure, social science and law, as well as race and law.

Professor Parks’ scholarly books have been published with Oxford University Press, The New Press, the University Press of Kentucky, the University Press of Mississippi, and Fairleigh Dickinson University Press. He recently completed two books - one entitled The Wrongs of the Right: Race and the GOP in the Age of Obama with Matthew Hughey (NYU Press) and another on implicit/subconscious race bias and the law (Oxford University Press). In 2013, he will turn his attention to writing two books - one on hazing within black Greek-letter organizations through the lens of law and other disciplines; another on the myriad challenges that face black Greek-letter organizations and how to solve those problems.
His scholarly articles have appeared in such journals as: Florida State University Law Review; Howard Law Journal; University of California-Irvine Law Review; University of Pennsylvania Law Review (PENNumbra); Cardozo Law Review de novo; Wake Forest Law Review Common Law; Cornell Journal of Law & Public Policy; Journal of Criminal Law & Criminology; Maryland Law Journal of Race, Religion, Gender & Class; Rutgers Race & Law Review; William and Mary Journal of Women and the Law; Hastings Women's Law Journal; and Psychology, Public Policy & Law.

Professor Parks is member of a number of professional (i.e., law- and social science-related) and fraternal organizations. His hobbies include martial arts (Karate (black belt), Tae Kwon Do (red belt), Gracie Brazilian Jujitsu (blue belt), Small Circle Jujitsu, kickboxing, Judo, and wrestling) and travel.

Wednesday, January 21, 2015

"kNOw More !!!" - 2015 Stop the Violence Breakfast



Providing Community Service, Mentorship and Leadership
November 2014

Greetings,
The Gamma Xi Uplift Foundation is delighted to present the Second Annual Stop the Violence Breakfast on Saturday, January 24, 2015 at the Holiday Inn Virginia Beach-Norfolk Hotel and Conference Center, 5655 Greenwich Road, Virginia Beach, Virginia 23462. The purpose of this program is to bring awareness to violence, specifically, domestic violence in our community. We will discuss the responsibilities we all have as a society to support those who are experiencing these acts of abuse; additionally, our responsibilities to help reduce this crime against humanity.

The Gamma Xi Uplift Foundation has made it our mission to uplift our community on multiple levels. Each year the foundation awards numerous scholarships to graduating seniors in the Virginia Beach School System who will be furthering their education at the college level.

We have an annual Talent Hunt program where we encourage the youth to showcase their gifts in the Arts. This program is designed not only for them to perform their skill, but also inspire them to think about a complete presentation; key components such as timeliness, attire, delivery, and style.

The Foundation certainly understands the importance of impacting and exposing our youth to positive opportunities. We have a mentorship program which familiarize the youth in the studies of Science, Technology, Reading, Engineering, Art and Math. They have the opportunity to participate in social projects during the holiday season where they deliver food baskets to the under-served communities in Virginia Beach. They attend workshops and banquets with their peers from other mentor groups to be enriched with various educational topics.

The Foundation will continue to support the efforts we have in place. We will pursue and explore new opportunities to establish a foot print that will make a positive impact in Virginia Beach and throughout Hampton Roads.

The programs that we provide would not be possible without the support of corporations, businesses, organizers and volunteers. This is where your involvement is critical. We need your participation and sponsorship. Tax deductible donations can be mailed to our address at P.O. Box 64535 Virginia Beach, Va. 23467. For questions you may contact Reggie Matthews at 757-338-2943 or reggiematthews1@gmail.com .
Thank you for supporting this event; and for your support of all the other programs that are made possible because of benevolent leaders like you. The Gamma Xi Uplift Foundation salutes your commitment.

Thursday, October 24, 2013

Dr. Ben Carson on Obamacare - "Worst thing.....since slavery." - Atlanta Black Star

Ben Carson Confronted by Roland Martin on Obama
Carson speaks to the Conservative Political Action Conference (CPAC) in National Harbor, Maryland
 http://atlantablackstar.com/2013/10/19/ben-carson-confronted-and-4-other-noteworthy-events/
Roland Martin Confronts Ben Carson

After conservative darling Dr. Ben Carson made his head-shaking comments that Obamacare was “the worst thing that has happened in this nation since slavery,” Roland Martin got a chance to confront him on Martin’s NewsOne radio show yesterday.

Noting that atrocities like Jim Crow arose after slavery, Martin asked him, “Did you go too far?”

“That’s my opinion,” Carson responded. “First of all, I recognize that slavery was a horrible thing … I realize how horrible it was … I didn’t say this is as bad as slavery, I said this is the worst thing since slavery.”
“Which includes Jim Crow,” Martin interrupted.

“Yes, absolutely,” the neurosurgeon and author said. “This nation was founded on the principle that it would be a new type of nation, that was for, of, and by the people. A constitution was put in place that would assure that the people remain at the pinnacle of power and that the central government would never reach the point where it had control of the people. [Obamacare] fundamentally changes the relationship.”

Carson said the Affordable Care Act will give the government control over “everyone’s health,” to which Martin responded by saying it empowers the individual.

Carson said the law gets in between the patient-provider relationship.

“This is only the beginning,” Carson continued. “What you will see is that a lot of the insurance companies will begin to fold … Ultimately, we will have a single-payer system if we don’t stop this from happening.”

Obamacare Opponents Bring Their Fight to the States
The effort to derail Obamacare, having failed in Congress, has now moved to the states, where well-funded groups are pressuring local lawmakers to resist the expansion of Medicaid — a major part of the law’s efforts to cover 48 million uninsured Americans.

In Virginia, Emmett W. Hanger Jr., a Republican state senator from the deeply conservative Shenandoah Valley, is feeling heat from the Republican right, specifically from groups like Americans for Prosperity, the conservative advocacy group backed by the billionaire industrialist brothers Charles and David Koch.

Hanger told the New York Times the group is waging “an attempt to intimidate me” in Richmond and at home by phoning his constituents, distributing leaflets and knocking on 2,000 doors in his rural district.
“This has been one of those trench warfare kind of efforts for a year now, and I think it is one of those hidden stories of the whole fight against Obamacare,” said Tim Phillips, president of Americans for Prosperity. “It’s not flashy; it’s just in a whole bunch of state capitals and in the districts of a whole lot of state legislators, but it’s such a crucial aspect of the overall long-term effort to roll back Obamacare.”

The expansion of Medicaid, a joint federal-state program for the poor, is critical to the law’s goal of covering the nation’s 48 million uninsured. Hospitals and insurers are counting on more Medicaid patients to make the economics of the law work. The federal government would pay 100 percent of the cost of new enrollees for the first three years and 90 percent after that.

But in June 2012, the Supreme Court ruled that states could opt out of Medicaid expansion, which opened the door for conservative opponents of the law to use Medicaid as an arena to oppose it. Americans for Prosperity has paid staff members in 34 states and is running aggressive campaigns in states like Arkansas, Florida, Ohio, Louisiana, Michigan and Pennsylvania.

Tea Party Patriots recently gave $20,000 to organizers of a referendum drive to put the question of Medicaid expansion on the Arizona ballot.

So far, roughly half the states are moving forward with Medicaid expansion and an increasing number of Republican governors are expressing interest.

Tuesday, July 23, 2013

Travon Martin broke the Sundown Rule - Tariq Nasheed

Travon was killed because he broke the Sundown Rule...... Tariq Nasheed
Tariq Nasheed's video: http://youtu.be/gPvy8jAP6uw 
In this video Tariq Nasheed discusses the ignored pieces of the George Zimmerman Case.
The Loewen video:  http://www.c-spanvideo.org/program/189492-2
For decades after the 14th Amendment was ratified, and continuing well into the 20th century, America’s blacks suffered insidious discrimination that came in many forms. One of the most humiliating was “Sundown Towns” part of what was called our “hidden history.” Sundown towns were those communities that systematically excluded blacks from those communities after dark. There is still some evidence them. James Loewen, Professor Emeritus of Sociology at the University of Vermont has researched the issue extensively, and is the author of Sundown Towns: A Hidden Dimension of American Racism, the first book ever written on the subject.

http://books.google.com/books/about/Sundown_Towns.html?id=lx4Kwap0gCwC

James Loewen: "I thought I would discover maybe ten of these in Illinois and maybe ten across the country. And, to my complete astonishment I am now at a count of 501 in Illinois alone. Which is 70 percent of all the incorporated municipalities within the state and I think there‘s a similar percentage in Missouri except for the southern part which is actually along the Missouri River. These sundown towns are not common in the South, and the southern part of Missouri along the Missouri River is like the South in that regard. 548."
SUNDOWN TOWNS WENT TO SOME LENGTH TO GIVE THE IMPRESSION THEY WERE INTEGRATED. SOME COUNTED PRISONERS, MENTAL INSTITUTION PATIENTS, LIVE IN DOMESTICS AS PART OF THEIR POPULATIONS, OR EVEN ALLOWED ONE OR TWO FAMILIES…JUST TO SAY THEY WERE NOT DISCRIMINATING. ALTHOUGH SOME HAD SIGNS DISCOURAGING BLACKS…THE POLICY WAS MORE INFORMAL THAN CODIFIED BY ORDINANCE.
http://stlhistoryblackwhite.wordpress.com/2011/02/21/sundown-towns-1890-1910/

In addition to the expulsion of African Americans from some small towns, Chinese Americans and other minorities were also driven out of some of the towns where they lived. One example according to Loewen is that in 1870, Chinese made up one-third of the population of Idaho. Following a wave of violence and an 1886 anti-Chinese convention in Boise, almost none remained by 1910.[6] The town of Gardnerville, Nevada, is said to have blown a whistle at 6 p.m. daily alerting Native Americans to leave by sundown.[7] In addition, Jews were excluded from living in some sundown towns, such as Darien, Connecticut.[8]
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sundown_town 

In some cases, signs were placed at the town's borders with statements similar to the one posted in Hawthorne, California, which read "Nigger, Don't Let The Sun Set On YOU In Hawthorne" in the 1930s.[2]
In some cases, the exclusion was official town policy or through restrictive covenants agreed to by the real estate agents of the community. In others, the policy was enforced through intimidation. This intimidation could occur in a number of ways, including harassment by law enforcement officers.[3]

Though no one knows the number of sundown towns there were in the United States, the largest attempt made to determine how common they were estimated that there were several thousand throughout the nation. The highest proportion of confirmed sundown towns were in the state of Illinois[citation needed], but that may not be truly representative of their distribution, as sundown towns are difficult to accurately determine given the reluctance for the towns themselves to have, or to reveal, official documents stating their status as sundown towns.

Since the Civil Rights Movement of the 1950s and 1960s, and especially since the Civil Rights Act of 1968 prohibited racial discrimination concerning the sale, rental, and financing of housing, the number of sundown towns has decreased. However, as sociologist James W. Loewen writes in his book on the subject, it is impossible to precisely count the number of sundown towns at any given time, because most towns have not kept records of the ordinances or signs that marked the town's sundown status.[4] His book, Sundown Towns: A Hidden Dimension of American Racism, notes that hundreds of cities across America have been sundown towns at some point in their history.[5]
Fresh water keeps us well, fresh water opens the way, fresh water is our sustainer, freshwater is from above. We are thankful for the fresh water in the life of Travon Martin. May his memory be a blessing. May his life-gift wake the sleeping giant. May his parents tears water a new freedom. May our pain of loss be soon replaced with a smile of realization that fresh water has returned to it's source. May his name ring synonymous with change. May America be improved.................Ashee, ashee, ashee !

Sunday, June 16, 2013

Solving Baby Daddy and Baby Mama Drama

Happy Fathers Day !

EVERYDAY !

BlackImprovement realizes that some cannot fully enjoy this blessed celebration of Fatherhood.



For those with difficulties, here are some solutions:
Dr. Umar Abdullah Johnson presents concerns and solutions towards ending 'Fatherlessness' and 'Motherlessness' problems that affect communities of people of African descent.
Watch the video here: http://youtu.be/S2GNakv5AjI

This is a focused section from a longer video in which the presenter deals with prblems affecting children of African descent in American schools as well as he does questions and answers towards the information he presents. The original full legnth video may be found here:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CvDwVILVGVo

Sunday, June 2, 2013

Commercialized Hip-Hop: The Gospel of Self-Destruction

Commercialized Hip-Hop: The Gospel of Self-Destruction

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“I swear you can’t f*ck with me
But I can f*ck your girl and make her nut for me
Then slutt for me, then kill for me, then steal for me
And of course it’ll be your cash
Then I’ll murder that b*tch and send her body back to your a*s” – Lil Wayne, “We Be Steady Mobbin

Proverbs 18:21 in the bible states that “Death and life are in the power of the tongue….” are these words creating death or life in the futures of young black men?  Is it a coincidence that black males lead the nation in nearly every negative statistic imaginable, including homicides, incarceration, unemployment and education?  Yes, there are systemic obstacles at work which cause these outcomes, but at what point do we hold ourselves accountable for contributing to our own demise?

Imagine an entire generation of young people hearing lyrics like this on a daily basis, reciting mantras that glorify drug and alcohol consumption, the objectification of women, murdering other black people, anti-intellectualism, financial irresponsibility and every other thing you can do to destroy your life.  Do you REALLY believe that a child can hear this message every single day, repeating these lyrics literally thousands of times and not have his subconscious mind altered by the messages he’s consuming?   Do you REALLY think that the corporations earning billions of dollars from this form of weaponized psychological genocide care one bit about whether your son ends up in the prison, the morgue, the rehab center, the insane asylum or the unemployment line?

In a style that only he can deliver, Dr. Boyce Watkins explains the seven tenants of black male self-destruction that are being promoted through commercialized hip-hop.  Dr. Watkins’ lecture presents an amazing display of simple, yet thoughtful analysis that leans on his 20 years of teaching at American business schools to explain why unregulated capitalism and public irresponsibility has not only ruined hip-hop, but has created a deadly set of toxins for young men and women who are raised to be fed like cattle into the prison industrial complex.  The truth is that they want your son to die, and his death is far more convenient if he contributes to his own destruction.  In the words of Dr. Watkins, “When you kill and control the mind, you don’t have to control the body.  At that point, the person will simply choose to throw himself off a cliff.”
Dr. Watkins loves hip-hop and he loves black people.  He also appreciates and studies the musical talents of many of the artists he critiques. That is why he feels that it’s urgent to start telling the truth about what’s happening to  young black kids and start demanding that artists and corporations take responsibility for the lifestyles being promoted through destructive music on the radio.  The time for making excuses is over, because our children are important too and it is up to us to protect them.

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About Dr. Boyce Watkins:  Dr. Watkins is one of the the most highly sought-after African American public figures in the country. He has been a Finance Professor at Syracuse University for 12 years, and was the only African American in the country to earn a PhD in Finance during the year 2002.  He is the author of several compelling books, including “What if George Bush were a Black Man?“, “Black American Money:  How Black Power can Thrive in a Capitalist Society,” and “Everything You Ever Wanted to Know about College.”  He is the co-star of the Janks Morton film, “Hoodwinked,” along with Drs. Steve Perry, Marc Lamont Hill, Ivory Toldson and Jawanza Kunjufu.  He has also appeared in a slew of national media outlets, including CNN, NBC, ABC, CBS and many others. You may also email us at info@boycewatkins.com 
http://www.yourblackworld.net/the-gospel/

Monday, April 8, 2013

BANNED IN THE USA - Lil Wayne & Rick Ross for their own stupidity

UPDATE - 04.12.2013 - Reebox has dropped Rick Ross as a endorsement image !

Michigan Radio Station Bans Lil Wayne & Rick Ross Over Lyrics

Posted by Tony Neal on March 28, 2013 at 7:52pm 0 Comments
Controversial lyrics from Lil Wayne and Rick Ross result in both rappers being banned by a Michigan radio station.

Following news that a particular and heavily controversial lyric from Rick Ross on Rocko’s “U.O.E.N.O (You Ain’t Even Know It)” was enough to warrant a petition, a Michigan radio station has just announced that they plan on banning the Miami rapper’s music unless he issues an apology.
XXLMag.com reports that the radio station, Michigan’s WUVS 103.7, will also ban Lil Wayne and his music unless he too issues an apology.

“Effective immediately Muskegon’s WUVSlp 103.7 the Beat has pulled ALL Lil Wayne and Rick Ross music from rotation. We pride ourselves on playing music that is non-degrading and non-violent. While we believe in freedom of speech, creative writing and individualism, we refuse to be part of the problem by spreading messages that could harm or end someone’s life,” read a statement from WUVS.
Lil Wayne recently brought about tremendous criticism from fans following the release of Future’s “Karate Chop (Remix).” On the song, Lil Wayne insults slain teen Emmett Till as he raps, “Beat that p*##y up like Emmett Till.

“Karate Chop (Remix)” was ultimately pulled by Future’s label Epic Records, but Lil Wayne has yet to publicly acknowledge his Emmett Till lyric. 

Tricky Rick Ross turns Rap to RAPE and then punks out.

MITCH ALERT !!!!
Is Tricky-Rick Ross back-pedaling from a line he provides in a Rocko Mixtape that seems to promote the use of  a Date Rape drug to rape someone ? (The answer is yes - He's a MITCH. Note how his response not-so-cleverly skirts' the issue of the message in the lyric and only deals with the fact that the lyrics don't use the word 'rape'........Very MITCH-like)

An activisit site named Ultra Violet is promoting a presure campaign to hit Rick Ross by forcing his removal from a Reebok sponsorship. UltraViolet is a community of women and men, fighting to expand women's rights and combat sexism everywhere - from politics and government to media and pop culture:

In his latest single, Reebok spokesman and rapper Rick Ross brags about drugging and raping a woman, saying, "Put molly all in her champagne, she ain’t even know it / I took her home and I enjoyed that, she ain’t even know it." ("Molly" is drug that distorts reality and reduces inhibitions.) "Reebok needs to know that we won't stand for them promoting rape culture. Will you sign the petition telling Reebok that rape is NEVER okay and they should drop Rick Ross right away?"
http://act.weareultraviolet.org/sign/reebok_rick_ross/?referring_akid=366.107713.erlIoP&source=mailto

The lyrics in question talk about drugging a woman and taking her home. "Put molly all in her champagne/ She ain't even know it/ I took her home and I enjoyed that/ She ain't even know it," raps Ross. 
MITCH !!!!! (Male + #itch = MITCH)

[WOW] A$AP Rocky Says Dark Skin Women Can’t Wear Red Lipstick


The Harlem hipster rap star said that darker skinned women shouldn’t wear red lipstick because only women with lighter complexions can pull the look off.
Via The Coveteur reports:
On girls wearing makeup:
“But you girls don’t understand how much you mess up your skin. You can’t help it, but make-up is the worst thing you can do to your skin. I love girls natural, but I don’t mind make-up. There’s nothing wrong with it, there’s really nothing wrong with it.
I feel like with the red lipstick thing it all depends on the pair of complexion. I’m just being for real. You have to be fair skinned to get away with that. Just like if you were to wear like—f*cking for instance, what do dark skin girls have that you know fair skinned girls cant do… Purple lipstick? Naw, that looks stupid on all girls! Purple lipstick, guys! Like, what the f*ck…”
what do you think about this??
........HE gotta' f'in problem............

Wednesday, April 3, 2013

DJ Rahdu's Mental Evolution Mix #2 (Black Improvement set to music)

Mental Evolution Intro
A Tribe Called Quest – Ham & Eggs
Donny Hathaway & Roberta Flack – Be Black For Me
Donnie – Cloud 9
Black Star – Brown Skin Lady
Angela Davis – Targeting Women
Various Artists – Freedom
The Roots – Pussy Galore
Queen Latifah – U.N.I.T.Y
Sarah jones – Blood
Mumia Abu Jamal – A Rap Thing
Mental Evolution Interlude
Aretha Franklin – Young Gifted and Black
Dick Gregory – American Lies
Boogie Monsters – Mark of The Beast (R.S.V.)
Common – Gaining One’s Definition (G.O.D.) feat Cee-Lo
Obeah the Intellectual – Probable Cause
Richard Pryor – Niggers vs Police
Talib Kweli – The Proud
Boogie Down Productions – You Must learn
Chasing Amy Movie Excerpt
Earth Wind & Fire – Keep Your Head to the Sky
artwork by Gilbert Young
DJ Rahdu – Mental Evolution 2 (Mix)
The direct link: http://bamalovesoul.com/2013/02/06/dj-rahdu-mental-evolution-2-mix-2/


Friday, March 29, 2013

Tricky Rick Ross turns Rap to RAPE and then punks out.

MITCH ALERT !!!!
Is Tricky-Rick Ross back-pedaling from a line he provides in a Rocko Mixtape that seems to promote the use of  a Date Rape drug to rape someone ? (The answer is yes - He's a MITCH. Note how his response not-so-cleverly skirts' the issue of the message in the lyric and only deals with the fact that the lyrics don't use the word 'rape'........Very MITCH-like)

An activisit site named Ultra Violet is promoting a presure campaign to hit Rick Ross by forcing his removal from a Reebok sponsorship. UltraViolet is a community of women and men, fighting to expand women's rights and combat sexism everywhere - from politics and government to media and pop culture:

In his latest single, Reebok spokesman and rapper Rick Ross brags about drugging and raping a woman, saying, "Put molly all in her champagne, she ain’t even know it / I took her home and I enjoyed that, she ain’t even know it." ("Molly" is drug that distorts reality and reduces inhibitions.) "Reebok needs to know that we won't stand for them promoting rape culture. Will you sign the petition telling Reebok that rape is NEVER okay and they should drop Rick Ross right away?"
http://act.weareultraviolet.org/sign/reebok_rick_ross/?referring_akid=366.107713.erlIoP&source=mailto

The lyrics in question talk about drugging a woman and taking her home. "Put molly all in her champagne/ She ain't even know it/ I took her home and I enjoyed that/ She ain't even know it," raps Ross. Check out Ross' response in the below clip (around 4:55) and share your thoughts in the comments section below. The video link is: http://youtu.be/KzR-yTSWZgI

Rick Ross has taken to the airwaves to respond to the controversy surrounding his lyrics in the song 'U.O.E.N.O.'. While the Maybach Music frontman is known for rapping about his luxurious lifestyle, he stirred up a bit of a firestorm with a line in the single that seemed to glorify date rape.
But the rapper said that couldn't be further from the truth. During an interview on New Orleans radio station Q93.3, the Miami lyricist calls the criticism a misunderstanding, saying he doesn't promote or condone rape in any way.
"Woman is the most precious gift known to man," he said. "And there was a misunderstanding with a lyric...a misinterpretation where the term rape was used. I would never use the term rape, you know, in my lyrics. And as far as my camp, hip hop don't condone that, the streets don't condone that, nobody condones that." Ross went on to say that he thinks rappers have a responsibility to clarify their lyrics since hip hop songs are often misinterpreted..... (Right.......)

"I feel like us being artists that's our job," he said. "To clarify the sensitive things and the things that we know that really need to be clarified such as a situation as this." Ross collaborated with Atlanta rapper Rocko for the single, titled "U.O.E.N.O.," off Rocko's mixtape "Gift of Gab 2." Although the mix dropped in February, the track featuring Ross is just now gaining traction because of a lyric presumably about date rape.

Rigggggggggggggggggght. Sounds like a 'Tricky-Ricky' back-pedal to the conscious..........Rick needs to admit that he F'ed up and wasn't considering the message in his message and get on board in the improvement of the community starting with an apology. Maybe he should use the Reebox platform to fix this issue....... But that would be more like a man and much less than the Nigg@' he defines himself as....

File This Under "Obvious": It's NOT Okay For Rick Ross To Rap About Date Rape
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"Put Molly all in her champagne, she ain’t even know it/I took her home and I enjoyed that, she ain't even know it." So raps Rick Ross in his newest song, “U.O.E.N.O.” To clarify, Molly is a name for M.D.M.A, and Mr. Rozay is insinuating that he is putting a drug in his date's drink and then taking her home, which, both colloquially and in courts of law, is known as date rape.

Sadly, talking about rape, disrespecting women, and drugging or abusing women in music, specifically rap, is nothing new, and it has generally been looked upon as an unfortunate but acceptable practice. (See: Dr. Dre, Jay-Z, Lil' Wayne, a particularly egregious example from Notorious B.I.G., and many more.) Indeed, female rappers are particularly well-known for turning around and serving it straight back to men, but for the most part, misogyny in rap has been generally accepted as a part of the music — either as a reflection of cultural norms or inherent class divisions in the music. But, guys, it is not okay. (It was never okay, but in 2013, it is less acceptable than ever.)

Of course, as members of the human race (and owners of a couple Rick Ross albums) we should get angry. But at this point, anger isn't enough. The author of this post has (on several occasions) interviewed or met Rick Ross, and he was incredibly friendly and gentleman-like. (This isn't to say that friendly, gentleman-like people aren't capable of date-rape, but chalking up Rick Ross to an Eminem-style provocateur isn't going to work in this instance.) The reason we mention this is because Rick Ross, at this point, should know better. His album label should know better. His producers should know better. His friends, both male and female, should also know better. The attitude of, "Well, this is okay because it is a part of the culture, even though it is ignorant" is now imploding on itself, with Steubenville, Adria Richards, and with Todd Akin. In fact, it seems that, even though foot-in-mouth misogyny is running rampant, rappers are particularly complacent in their acceptance of disturbing imagery like date rape.

Let us also remember that even though it is unlikely Rick Ross intended to rape a girl, it is this speech that contributes to "rape culture." This is a clear moment in time — with "legitimate rape" and Steubenville and #SafetyTipsForLadies fresh in our collective minds — that we need real, actual discussion. In the '90s, kids and teens used the word "f*****t" a lot, and one of the reasons that usage slowed significantly (in tandem with raising awareness of the cruelty of the word) is because a lot of peers turned to one another and said, "Hey man, that isn't cool to say."

Most importantly, we need to stand up for one another, to point out that an off-the-cuff comment in a song about people "not even knowing" what Rick Ross is up to, having sex with a drugged woman is not one of those things that's cool to mention. Instead, we need to challenge each other — especially if we are peers — to think before we speak, weigh our words and the meanings they carry. And we need to help each other in doing so. So, listen up, Mr. Rozay.

Friday, March 15, 2013

Are mixed race Africans diluted-Africans ?

Original post:
http://www.thisisafrica.me/opinion/detail/19839/Half-caste%3A-on-the-idea-that-mixed-race-Africans-are-%22diluted%22-Africans

Half-caste: on the idea that mixed-race Africans are "diluted" Africans

by Melinda Ozongwu
I am not half-caste (660x300)
Ones nationality can be determined by a number of factors, where you are born, where your parents are from, where you hold citizenship - politics combined with geography, circumstance and even choice. In my head there is nothing complicated about where I am from, until I’m challenged to prove it, and as an African of mixed race, defining and proving how Ugandan I am is something I am faced with quite often.
In the past when confronted with such a challenge, my sensitivity and emotions would affect my participation in the conversation. I would either defend myself by launching into a soliloquy in my mother tongue to prove that I belonged or, more often, I would simply remove myself from the conversation for fear of landing myself with a charge of aggravated assault. I have since matured, or maybe I’ve just become more tolerant of other people’s opinions of my identity. At any rate, I no longer feel the need to prove myself to anyone, so the most recent dispute of my Ugandan-ness couldn’t have come at a better time. A white American guy, he believed, after only a few months of living in Uganda, that he knew how to distinguish the “real Ugandans” from the “fake Ugandans”. He found my accent “different”, he said, and my English was apparently “too good”, my skin tone “too light” for me to be a true Ugandan. “Real” Ugandans, by implication, must be very dark and must speak English badly, and with a pronounced Ugandan accent, whatever that is. That it is practically impossible to find a single skin tone or way of speaking that represents all the people of a country doesn’t seem to have occurred to him.

This isn’t a woe is me story, I don’t feel hindered by the diversity in my heritage, but I do feel that not acknowledging challenges and obstacles faced by mixed-race Africans implies that there are none, or that all Africans are equally accepted, no matter how they look or sound. On many levels, the definition of “African” has ample space to be broadened, and somewhere within that definition one should find Africans of mixed-race, because there is a tendency to cast us aside, when we’re not being put on a pedestal.



I was about eleven years old when I came crying to my mother because a friend at school had called me a half-caste. She hadn’t meant to upset, bully or tease me, and even though I had never heard the term before, nor fully understood its origin or meaning, I did have a sense of what it meant and it pierced me deeply. I felt I was being described as some sort of Robinson Crusoe figure, a castaway lost at sea. I felt it implied, in a bad way, that I wasn’t like everyone else. Half-caste may have been the first label I was uncomfortable with, but it wouldn’t be the last one given to me. The most confusing was “mzungu”, because that’s what I called white people. So why were people calling me white? I would look over my shoulder for the white person they are referring to, because it couldn’t possibly be me. Even as a grown woman, I find myself looking around for the mzungu because being called white doesn’t resonate with me and it never will, regardless of the percentage of “whiteness” in my heritage.

When it comes to words used to describe people of mixed ethnicity, the context, definition and interpretation all affect how one receives them. I know people who take offense at being called mixed-race and others who don’t, some who prefer the term biracial, some who embrace their white culture as much as their African culture, some who are offended when called mulatto and others who comfortably use the term “colored”. Then there are those who only want to tick the African box, no compromises, variations or explanations. At the core all of these terms is the conscious or sub-conscious attempt to dilute the African in ones identity, so it is understandable that not everyone is comfortable with this.

Most of the discrimination I have experienced for being mixed-race has come from other Africans, and that’s what offends me the most. I couldn't care less about the opinion of the American man I mentioned above, the one who thought I was too “different” to be Ugandan; his opinion was ill-informed on so many levels - partly his fault and partly to do with the way the world chooses to see things – so his comments are not difficult to disregard. But when it’s my own countrymen and women, yes, I take it to heart.



There are occasions where I enter a room, and can tell before saying a word that some immediately assume I believe I’m “better” than “real Ugandans”. I think this stems from the feelings of inferiority some black people feel with regard to any degree of whiteness. I look around me here and every billboard portraying beauty is of a light-skinned woman, every advert telling us how to be more attractive is subliminally telling us to bleach that dark skin, and men go on about how beautiful light-skinned women are. Something about this imagery and mindset makes people believe that a mixed-race person has it easier than everyone else and, as we all know, no one likes a cheat or someone with an unfair advantage. Honestly though, there is some truth in the assumption, at least on a cosmetic level, and as a woman I can understand that to an observer it may look as though I walk through life getting my way without lifting a finger. There are people who can’t run fast enough to help, assist or simply be in the company of mixed-race Africans. Am I part of the problem if I don’t acknowledge and challenge that mentality every time I experience or suspect it? Probably, but if I did I would be doing it all the time, with no hard evidence, and the last time I checked knocking down kindness, regardless of the motive and subtext, is not good for ones karma. Putting mixed-race Africans on a pedestal creates tension, builds barriers and continues to separate people, with the knock-on effect of internalized racism. If you keep telling people they are wealthier, more attractive and more powerful because they have a fair complexion, then some of them will start to believe it, and their children will believe it, and schools will teach it by not challenging it, and the corporate world will continue to sell it.

There are people who feel quite comfortable being on the pedestal because of their fairer skin tone, and they take the utmost advantage of it. They expect it and they mistreat and disrespect people with darker skin, believing and glorifying in the hype. They are the reason those who aren’t like that have to fight harder to be accepted, but it becomes a chicken or the egg scenario, who is to blame?

The assumed privileges of being put on a pedestal are probably why mixed-race Africans are “punished” by exclusion, and seen as not really African, or as diluted Africans.

An African of mixed race may have family members from different cultures and with different traditional backgrounds, they make speak foreign languages, they may “look different”, “sound different”, you may think their sense of patriotism is over the top, heightened because they have lived away from Africa or want to prove their African-ness, or you may be angry because they have withdrawn from their African-ness for whatever reason, you may think they are more attractive because they may have curly “mixed” hair or green eyes, and you may get angry when she dates “real African” men, but all these differences, real or imagined, mean nothing unless you give them meaning. I’ve been disliked and mistreated many times purely because I’m mixed, but I’ve never been able to acknowledge said attacks at the time they occurred because the attacks are usually covert; it’s hard to prove an attack is taking place when it’s implied. But if I could, if I had the chance, if someone was brave enough to tell me what the real problem was, I’ll say what I’ve rehearsed in my head many times: if you get the stick out of your @s$, so will I.